In case you haven't noticed, I sort of like sounding off about things. Pretty much anything. Especially these days, as I am in bed for much of the day, and bored, and nauseous, and sleepy, and hey, having something to slap my opinion on would be just what the doctor ordered! This is where you come in! (Yes you. Y.o.u. -as in the person reading this right now. You.)
Here's how we play:
1. ONLY anonymous questions will be allowed. Your name cannot, I repeat, CANNOT be included - because, as we've seen in the past, anonymity ='s bravery and you need to have the freedom to ask what you really want to ask.
2. You must ask a question. If you just write something like "Lola Sucks!" I will delete it. Because although it may be a totally true/fair statement, it isn't a question - so there. You could, however, ask "Why does Lola suck so bad?" That's fair enough. And I will tell you why.
3. Extremely nasty/mean-spirited/otherwise bum-hole-ish questions will be deleted. Because hey, I may have just said "bum-hole-ish" but this is still technically a family friendly blog.
4. You can ask for advice about any life situation (Oh, please, please do! You have nasty inlaws, a turd for a husband, or a sister that drives you positively crazy - I just know it! Let's talk about that...) or ask a question about me (not nearly as exciting but I will probably answer.)
5. I will pick my favorite questions and answer them in an upcoming post. If there are only 3 questions, I will cry, wring my hands, proclaim "Why Universe?!! Why won't anyone ask me questions?!! Why?! Why?! WHYYYYY!???" and then I will take a hot shower, cry some more, and answer all three questions like the good sport that I am.
But have you ever just wanted an HONEST, non-sugar-coated answer to a life-question that is plaguing you? Well, if you have, I think you've found your girl. (And to be honest, if I knew who you were, I might sugar coat...because I love you, and sugar-coating is what we do to protect people that we love. Since I WON'T know who you are, you're proably gonna get the straight stuff, so be sure you really want it before you ask!)
Now, let the questions BEGIN!!!!
25 comments:
Am I the only woman out there in my 20's that has little to no sex drive? I know intimacy in a marriage is so important, so...we do IT :) BUT...I could do without, am I crazy? Should I see a Dr.?
My marriage has never been easy and I recently received...lets call it bad reviews from my bishop and marriage counselor on my husbands attitude, behavior, and ability to change to better the marriage. In the past years I feel I have lost myself, who I am, and been consumed by "raising" my husband and taking care of almost every responsibility in our marriage. How can I keep hold of who I am?
You should totally open a formspring account. That.would.rock. Then we could all ask annoying/serious/dumb/sincere questions and be completely anon about it. And, you can control the ones you answer, so you can just automatically delete the dumbo's and no one will ever have to see them (thus, they get zero validation!).
Just a thought :) A couple other blogs I follow recently did this with great response!
It's me again (the most recent anon poster). You can also create a little formspring question asker thingy for your blog and link to it right from here.
Gosh, I should work for them...or they should pay me for signing people up. I swear I have nothing to do with them, lol. I only thought the idea was fantastic after I saw it. One of those *why didn't I think of that???!* moments.
What it is exactly, that your husband does for a living? I notice he is home alot, and it makes me wonder how your able to spend so much great time together, and still get by?
What was your wedding like? Your colors, your dress, your flowers? You should post pictures!
I'm an avid reader of your blog and love your whit and sassyness, especially the way you answer those nasty anonymous people. I love it! You're awesome. Where do you get that whit and way with words? I guess I'm commenting more than putting a question. This is like "Dear Abby" or something. Cool!
How did you meet your hubby? How did you know he was, you know, "The One"?
Did you have a hard time getting pregnant with Kortland too? Or was it just your normal run of the mill miracle?
Holy smokes. Those were some deep questions posted. I just want to know. Is the baby's name going to be Bob? Spill your guts! I want to know all the possibilities.
Will you post a picture of the zucchini and cheese omelets next time you make them?
I want to see that one school picture from growing up that is so telling of the decade/year. Come on, lets see the feathered bangs, or the California tight rolled jeans, or the hammer pants!
I'm with anonymous #1. I could do without. My questions are: How many licks does it take to get to the center of a tootsie pop? And if you ruled the world, would everyone get free cupcakes? ;)
I have a friend who has an idiot for a husband, but she doesn't realize it and it's very puzzling to me. He has displayed some outrageous behavior through the years and I'm wondering if I should come clean to her about what EVERYONE thinks of him. Or if I should just keep quiet and continue our normal friendship.
Haha! I just love the term bum-hole-ish, I will be adding it to my vocabulary. Question: How often should you slap on the ol' lingerie for the hubs? I don't like to, but I always have wondered how often other women do it for their husbands???
My husband has had some job difficulties this past year. I am able to work out of the home for a minimal amount of time and make more than enough money to cover our bills. He has now decided to start his own business which will likely extend the time that I am working. I have 2 little ones (1 and 3) and am feeling guilt for working even though they are home with their dad when I am at work...should I or am I doing the right thing by supporting my husband in his work endeavors (or am I enabling him to rely on my too much)??
I really love the depth of some of these questions. It is nice to know I'm not the only one who could "go with out".
I have no questions to add but I am interested in your answers.
I am also with anon #1. There is a web-site called decreasedsexualdesire.com that has some information that might be helpful...I'm also glad that I am not the only one in my 20's that could really "do without"!
Who is your favorite author and what is your favorite book that they have written?
I'm just going to jump right in with this one... Having had such difficulties with fertility, does it upset you when a Mom, who hasn't struggled in such a way, talks about being "so done" with having kids or if they aren't completely excited about a pregnancy? I did not struggle with fertility and as a matter of fact, got my own "miracle" babies while using various and multiple birth control methods. I thank the Lord everyday for these little spirits that have been put in my care, and I know they are meant to be here with me, but I honestly have to say that with my second child and with my fifth child, finding out I was preggo was initially VERY upsetting to me. I feel bad about it sometimes, but I would love to here your feelings on this broad topic. Sorry this is so long!
P.S. (yes... another question on its way!)I love your blog! You are such an amazing Writer, Mommy, Woman! I have a pretty boring blog and am curious with how you come up with interesting topics and if you create your posts (revising, editing, etc...) before you actually post them or if you are just THAT GOOD and simply write and post?
Alright, this'n may help all you libido challenged ladies.
Recently rewatched P.S. I love you.... And here is my question:
How is it possible that anyone could come away from that movie thinking that Gerard Butler is hot when compared with Jeffery Dean Morgan? Really?
My best friends have been boys my whole life. I usually only have one or two girlfriends at a time but a whole slew of really close guy friends. I like this most of the time.
However, there is almost always one of the group of guys that I'm actually romantically interested in, but I rarely say anything. I cross my fingers and hope that he'll initiate something. (It has worked a few awesome times in the past.)
I'm in that predicament right now. I want so desperately to tell the one guy that I see differently than all the others that I like him. Yet I always chicken out. I fear that I am so deep in the "friend zone" that I see no way out.
I hoped that this most recent time would be different. His roommate was thinking on the same lines as me and suggested to the boy I'm interested in that he should date me. His response? We're "too good of friends". Heaven forbid you get along with the person you date!
Help. Is there any hope for dating this guy? Is it possible to bust out of the friend zone and into his heart?
If not, how do I prevent this from happening yet again?
Dear Lola,
Now you have started an online vent/therapy blog? You truly are amazing. Like the others have said you have a very impressive blog, it is always written well and very entertaining.
So here goes my vent. Let me just start off by saying that I love my husband very much. He is sweet wonderful, smart, intelligent, and very HOT! I am a lucky girl to have him. Having said that I am having trouble. You see, I work full time and we have two kids. I am 100% professional, and 100% mom, I don't care what they say it is extremely hard to balance. I get up in the morning I get them both ready, I take them both to daycare, I go to work, I come home, I make dinner, I do the dishes the house cleaning, the laundry, I take care of the pets. Lets just say I do WAY more than my share. He is still stuck in 1950 when it comes to marital responsibility. For the most part I do it unbegrudgingly, with a smile on my face.
Recently, my husband was diagnosed with a potentially life changing disease. He is having an extremely hard time adjusting to the news. I would say we both are. But it seems that if I let my fear and emotions show it just makes things worse. So I have to square my shoulders and be strong. Take on additional responsibilities that he can't do, and face the world with an unflinching strength and smile. I am so tired of being the strong one. It is so exhausting to be the rock and foundation of this relationship, keeping him upbeat and life as normal as possible. I used to hate my job, but any more it is such a relief to go to work to get out from the pressure at home.
I know you don't have answers for my life's dilemmas, and I apologize for using your blog for a vent. But I appreciate the listening ear.
Btw, I am so glad that you are getting your baby!
Sorry couldn't leave it at that. I feel really dumb and selfish for making the above comment.
My shoulder to cry on has crumbled, and I haven't figured out where to place my sorrow yet.
Please don't think that I am being selfish.
To the above person, DON'T FEEL SELFISH. Bearing the weight you have is hard. And as women it is hard to be the rock, the foundation, the glue and everything else life demands on top of an illness, I can't imagine. We all know Laura is not a licensed therapist, but I agree this is a good idea so people can vent and hear some different person's advise and not feel like an idiot asking or venting to our mom's or best friends. Good for you Laura. Thanks for the voice.
Today I was talking with some gals at work about dating problems. One of the gals had a lame-o experience that she is puzzled by. I instantly thought about your blog of wisdom and told her that I would get back to her with her questions (or you would get back to her...maybe...please?)
Here is the problem. My friend is a darling, single, RM that is still playing the dating game. Dating after the mission can be so frustrating! I'm guessing that you maybe got married younger...yes? That is okay, you can still help with your witty wisdom.
Well, a guy in her ward really struck her fancy. They became great friends and though she wanted to date him, he had a girlfriend. Always a deal breaker! So, after a few months she finds out that he breaks up with the gal and he is now calling her. This kid came off super strong; he was always calling and stopping by to see her. He would say things like, “you are the coolest girl I have ever met” or “I never thought that I would date an RM”. Wow, so flattering. Yes, us gals seem hang onto ever little thing that a guy says.
Well he finally asked her out on that first date and they doubled with... his parents…kind of weird, huh? She felt like the date went great, and when she got home she sent him a text message saying what a great time she had had. He then wrote her back and said that he had a great time, but he wants to keep the relationship as it is... casual. What? Was she reading into things? Was is really just wanting to be great friends? Goodness me, how in the heck do you know if they are interested if that wasn't interest?
Sorry so long. I just came from a long heart to heart with the gal and I didn't want to miss anything.
Thanks!
Dear Lola,
I noticed that there's a series of dating questions here, so I thought I'd leave one of my own. I was introduced to a boy a little while ago, and you know that giddy feeling of having a crush on someone? Well, I got it. I'm really interested in him and I feel like he reciprocates the interest. However, I'm a little frustrated with his mode of communication. Yes, he is a texter. He texts me all the time, and it's like we're dating through text messaging. But I would rather see him and talk face to face. He came over the other day, and we had so much fun. It wasn't awkward or anything. But then the texting continued. I don't want to text back because I want him to call me, but I'm afraid if I don't text back he will think I'm not interested. What do I do?
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